How to Strengthen your relationship

How to strengthen your relationship

In order to achieve a couple stronger and safer targets have to look and ask what will be our strategies to take advantage of the time at specified times.

We are always going to require a certain behavior in difficult situations and that's where we have to keep up. When all goes well and is very easy to want to stay together.

When things go wrong, either because of financial difficulties, illness or other things, our attitude will encourage good course of our relationship or shatter. We have always said that the best way to maintain a relationship with good communication is.



Love can be terminated

Then there is love, which may also be terminated. When will it happen is hard to say and can not be on the lookout because we are bitter and we can not enjoy your partner. Our role is to try while we are together things go well and for this we must know how to communicate.

When expressing your desires and your feelings, you can use an aggressive style or be a person who does not communicate anything. Both forms will not serve our goal of long-term partner. I'd better start to learn how to do it and this will be an assertive style.



Calm and unhurried discussions

People who know how to use this type of communication are ideal to engage in a discussion as always defend their rights, opinions or wishes, but never do harm to others, take into account their views and will be considered on their thinking.

When we use this type of communication, we will face an argument with a figure of speech slow and calm, always listen to what the other has to say, we will give the reason or understand him even though we disagree with what says and, above all, we will defend our position, yes, at any time without using aggression or threat.

Our partner does not put on the defensive and together we can reach agreements beneficial to both. You get what you want in a calm and your partner will not feel cheated or defrauded, is widely used problem solving and agreements as a form of communication is active and vocal.

Typical phrases used in a discussion assertive are:

"I understand ... but I think ..."

"You may be right but I still think that ..."

"What you do not like exactly?"

"Maybe you're right ... but I think ...

This form of communication will be the ideal in most cases, either when facing a conflict, or to give our opinion, or to criticize. And the basis for the positive resolution of any conflict that has to do with human relations. At the beginning of the sentences shows interest in what the other says, sometimes given half right, but over the course of the conversation always makes clear the point of view we are interested in doing it this way that our opponent does not get defensive because we do first is flatter or agree. In a relationship will be the best alternative to solve the problems.

Search for solutions

We also have to learn to cope with the problems that arise in the best manner possible and to do this we must be clear to some concepts.

For example, when one of the other members involved in decisions or problems do not directly compete and where the decision does not affect you, will appear an unnecessary pressure on the couple and negative for the relationship. We must differentiate themselves and personal problems of the couple.

It will be important to differentiate a discussion of solutions. They are different things. The discussions will be launched recriminations, the voice will become louder and will not solve the problem, since the alternatives will benefit each partner separately and often not even come out to address these alternatives. However, in solving problems will be given options that benefit both partners, or at least be able to reach a mutual agreement.